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Did I insult someone? If so, please identify it for me, because in review I do not believe that I did. I would like to track that down and figure out how to stop making that mistake.

I think people are overreacting to my vocabulary and general style, rather than any particular insults, partially because no one is pointing at anything specific that I said. I presented the complaint, identified the author's intent as valid with only the specific nature of his choice as flawed, demonstrated that I was only asking for what I and others already do, which implied this was only a lesson that I and others had probably needed to learn, too.

But correcting mistakes always requires acknowledging a mistake first, and that inevitably hits the ego. A professional writer seeks a professional editor because he knows he has flaws, and needs an expert to help identify them. We are not paralleling that situation here. I was trying to identify an error the author neither wanted nor expected to be identified, because if he understood the nature of the confusion he caused, he would know not to make the mistake in the first place. In my experience, achieving that has never been possible without a heavy hit to the ego, meaning most people will not take the feedback as intended (no matter how it is worded), and would rather take it as an attempt by me to injure their ego for my own selfish reasons. In this way, they can ignore the complaint and protect their own ego, by failing to acknowledge any mistake. The environment you are discussing has an expectation of professional response to well-meaning feedback. Forums do not have a requirement for a professional response.

While the immediate response is contrary, the author will typically incorporate the solution anyway. And that is why I bother.

It's the part where you objected to the use of the word "flip" in a particular context. Yes, the whole post. Christopher didn't just jump on it out of the blue, and the rest of it are not - as you seem to want to reassure yourself - imagining things.

It would have worked much better to say something pithy and informative, rather than overbearing and overlong.

May possibly be an idea to just stop replying now, Belle, based on the tone of that which you're replying to...

Puppies! Aren't puppies great and adorable?

No.

Now, kittens, on the other hand...

Is it time for my cowboy kitten? It's totally cowboy kitten time, right?

It is always cowboy kitten time. Cowboy kitten doesn't need anyone's permission.